Who know’s?

I came across a post on Facebook recently – sorry I can’t remember where it originated or who posted it so I can’t acknowledge it properly. The gist was that when we read about, or watch a film about, someone travelling back in time the essential feature is that a small thing they change back then makes a big difference to the present when they return. On the other hand we all tell ourselves that the small things we do now are irrelevant to solving the big issues.

Maybe not every small action does make a big difference but how can we know which ones will and which one’s wont?

Today I went to a meet-up at the home of a couple who are members of one of the Permaculture groups I belong to. I chatted to P who was widowed suddenly a couple of years ago and who told me shortly afterwards that she looked to me as a source of strength because I had been widowed some time before and had made a new life for myself. I never saw myself in that light before. Now I offer other bereaved people support and empathy more consciously. Today she told me she is moving house and how sad she will be to ‘leave S behind’ but also excited at a fresh start.

The I spoke to L, a psychotherapist and yoga teacher about her experience of doing both those roles on Zoom during the pandemic. To C a former Climate scientist, now smallholder, about the strengths and limitations of climate modelling and the book his wife (another, still practicing, climate scientist) is writing on the subject. To a couple who recently moved to Wales and are now planting a garden and converting an outbuilding so they can work from home more. I was able to point them in the direction of resources they may find useful and invited them to come and see my garden in the hope that they can learn from some of my mistakes as well as my successes. To B who I met at Coppicewood College when he was a student and I was a regular volunteer and who is planting trees on his site which produce nuts and fruit. He has been thinking about a business making fruit syrups and I suggested he consider fruit vinegars – I will send him the recipe. And to the hosts who I know listened to me a while back talking about rewriting my will and setting up Lasting Powers of Attorney, took some of the ideas and used them. There were others I would have loved to chat with but time ran out.

Part of our hosts’ garden

When I came home I read a post from Jean who blogs as ‘one small stitch’ (https://onesmallstitch.wordpress.com/2021/08/21/ramblings) in which she wondered if her making and mending made any difference when the challenges of Climate Change are so huge. I imagine we all wonder that at times. Should we be doing more? if so what?

But Jean’s posts, like those of all the bloggers I follow, inspire me in so many ways. To make things and mend things, to think about the World and see it through different eyes, to go on learning and trying new things, to recognise the kindness and generosity of human beings to each other.

I have no idea which, if any, of those encounters I had today will change the world in the slightest. I have no idea if any of you reading this will find it useful or encouraging. I will never be a powerful politician or run a global company (for which may the world be truly thankful – I am not cut out for either role). I will go on doing what I CAN do – making the small changes I am capable of, making and mending, gardening and wooding, reading and writing, reaching out to others through blogging and meeting and offering them the help and support I can. I may be a ‘daft old bat’ but we are all connected, each of you to me and through me to the people I spoke to today, and in our various communities and conversations, urging each other on, our combined small acts might, just might, change the future.

22 thoughts on “Who know’s?

  1. onesmallstitch August 22, 2021 / 5:20 pm

    beautiful words, Sue and so true. I started the blog 11 years ago and struggled to give it a name. Finally “one small stitch” seemed appropriate as that is where it all started when I was very young – with small stitches, guided by my Mother. And for your readers, from Jane Goodall “You cannot get through a single day without having an impact on the world around you. What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make.

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    • Going Batty in Wales August 23, 2021 / 9:57 am

      Thank you Jean. Please keep blogging as I enjoy your posts and find they inspire me and set me thinking. I read Jane Goodall’s book many many years ago – that quote says it all!

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  2. Luffy August 22, 2021 / 5:36 pm

    Small deeds or words at the right time can be the thing that change completely pivots on, so keep seeding kindness and thoughtfulness into the world. It can always have a positive effect. ❤️

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    • Going Batty in Wales August 23, 2021 / 9:58 am

      Thank you Luffy. I try – I don’t always succeed but I try.

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  3. apeacefultree August 22, 2021 / 6:31 pm

    This is a lovely blog post. I think all the little things do add up. Thanks for the reminder!

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    • Going Batty in Wales August 23, 2021 / 9:58 am

      I’m glad you enjoyed it.

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  4. Helen August 22, 2021 / 9:07 pm

    I’d been putting of writing a blog post for days, wondering if it was worth it – just one small pebble in a large ocean. So, your post resonates with me.

    However, the reality is that if we do not do it, all we can be is that small pebble. But if we move we create ripples which will have a knock-on effect somewhere. It certainly seems as though your outing had that ripple effect.

    Even if your actions can’t alone prevent further climate change, you’ve made the world a better place. You might of course influence others, who then influence others and so on. However, climate change is only one of many issues and so all kindness and support is welcome.

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    • Going Batty in Wales August 23, 2021 / 10:00 am

      Thank you Helen. I love the pebble analogy. I know that sometimes I move a bit too suddenly and cause waves which gets people wet and so they are too upset to hear my intention but I keep trying to learn to pitch things well.

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      • Helen August 23, 2021 / 10:33 am

        Hard to pitch unless you know a person well.

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  5. nanacathy2 August 22, 2021 / 9:42 pm

    All the small things add up to be a big thing, and living an authentic life is a pretty big small thing.

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    • Going Batty in Wales August 23, 2021 / 10:01 am

      Well I try. As I have said in other replies I often get it wrong but at least I am trying and trying to learn how to get it right.

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  6. anne54 August 22, 2021 / 9:52 pm

    i love this post too. More so because I had just read a post written by someone who is obviously having a hard time with everything happening in the world. That post was the opposite of yours, so it was heartening to read that all your interactions that may have had an impact. Posting it has certainly had an impact on me this morning, so thank you! 😘

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    • Going Batty in Wales August 23, 2021 / 10:05 am

      Thank you Anne. It is easy to look at the world and its leaders and feel angry or dejected – so many huge issues being ignored for short term gain or to enrich mates. It was always the case although the issues may have been somewhat less apocalyptic. I can’t change that but I can hope that my small things – like blogging!

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  7. Laurie Graves August 23, 2021 / 4:01 am

    Beautiful, beautiful post. I ask myself the same questions all the time. In the end it comes down to this: If I did not live in accordance with my ideals, I would not be happy.

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    • Going Batty in Wales August 23, 2021 / 10:07 am

      That is very true Laurie. I sometimes wonder why I do many things the old fashioned, by hand, hard way. Why not ‘treat myself’ ‘because I’m worth it’? But none of that would make me any happier and I would feel guilty so I carry on as I am.

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  8. tialys August 23, 2021 / 8:42 am

    You did a lot in one day! This has encouraged me as I’ve recently volunteered to help out at a centre on days where they offer company, entertainment and good food to local people (mostly elderly) who feel isolated and/or lonely. I wondered how much good I could actually do but, if I’m good at anything, it’s chatting so, hopefully, I’ll be able to provide a friendly face and ears. I am emphatically not the entertainment – that will usually be somebody who can sing.

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    • Going Batty in Wales August 23, 2021 / 10:11 am

      Well done! I am lucky enough to live in an area where the neighbours look out for each other. I am also sassy enough to start up conversations, join things and generally refuse to be isolated. But I used to be very shy and I can totally understand why some people, particularly in more urban areas, get isolated. A friendly face, some chat and plenty of listening when they pluck up courage to speak is exactly what they need. I hope you enjoy the events as much as they will.

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  9. Kate August 23, 2021 / 11:30 am

    Sue, this is a lovely post, thank you.
    Feeling helpless seems to have become an everyday feeling, but you made me think – individual actions do change the future, because we can look back to yesterday or last week, or last year and know that we made an effort, we did something, if only on our own patch in the smallest of ways to contribute, instead of standing still or closing our eyes and ears. I live in a neighbourhood of wasted gardens, concreted over, covered in plastic ‘grass’ or used as dumping grounds. This last year I let the garden grow wild, added cuttings from buddleia and honeysuckle that I took from my allotment, and just let it all go, and I have been astonished at the abundance of insect and bird interest. The lavender and anemones are laden with bees, and the garden, tiny as it is, is humming.
    Compared to the efforts you make, this is very small, but it has made a big difference to how I cope with what is happening to our environment. I look back and I know I did something, and that’s what I feel is important, that I’m not going to be someone who stood still.
    Thank you for this great blog, it is a real comfort.

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    • Going Batty in Wales August 24, 2021 / 9:09 am

      Thank you for such a lovely thoughtful comment Kate and I am delighted you are enjoying my blog. I really enjoyed reading the story of your garden – Nature doesn’t need much help, just us to get out of the way and stop trying to control her. I did wonder what your neighbours made of it – a friend who lives in a rather prissy suburban part of a local village has heard nasty comments about her letting her hedges grow tall (the birds love it and nest there) and her lawn become a wild flower meadow full of insects. It offends urban neatness it seems!

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  10. June Lorraine Roberts August 24, 2021 / 11:59 pm

    Loved this post Sue. I’ve had a few nuggets whispered in my ear over the years and they’ve all been valued.

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    • Going Batty in Wales August 25, 2021 / 10:48 am

      Glad you enjoyed it! Nuggets only work if you are prepared to listen.

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